I keep coming to this phrase in my head ” whatever it takes”, it seems to be on repeat in my mind each day. Its a phrase so often heard, yet not often done. There are a lot of people who say that they will do whatever it takes to get to a certain point in their lives, to accomplish their goals, and to be able to do the things they want to do. So, if this is the case, why then do we have so many people full of regret, thinking about what they could have done, and wishing that they would have given their all? Because after all, isn’t whatever it takes actually giving it your all that you have?
I then begin to take my thinking even further, and trying to see the difference between what successful people do and what unsuccessful people do. One, of the things I kept coming back to was the fact that successful people did actually do whatever it took to get to that place of success. That the phrase ” whatever it takes” truly means that, and that every successful person whatever it takes is different. To some it may have been long sleepless nights, overcoming environmental set backs, financial hardships, working day in and day out perfecting their talent and the list goes on and on. However, one of the most common sayings that I have heard from successful people is that they kept pushing, kept pursuing, no matter the people telling them that they couldn’t make it, or how many doors closed, they kept dreaming, they kept striving for what they believed in.
After, looking at the successful people, I then begin to look at the unsuccessful people. The biggest common that I found among this group of people, is the fact that although they wanted to chase their dreams, they allowed others to stop them. They allowed what negative things other people told them they could not do, stop them. They allowed that one closed door to be it, and did not continue to pursue another one, but instead settled for less. Therefore through settling for less, they ended up feeling regretful and resentful because of what they did not do.
Both groups, wanting greater, but only one group that actually got that greater. Of course, then the questions begin to pour in my mind. The word WHY, being repeated over and over. The questions expanded beyond just being successful or unsuccessful, but instead focused on life as a whole picture.
Why do we allow what others have to say stop us from pursuing the dreams that we have for ourselves? Why do we feel that we must have approval from others in order to make it where we want to be in life? Why do we give up after one thing doesn’t go as we planned? Why do we settle, when we know in our hearts that we want more? Why do we allow others to dictate our futures? Why do we not fight for what we dream about? Why do we not believe in ourselves? Why do we choose to regret something our whole lives over something that we have the power to change? Why do we conform to what the world tells us we are instead of standing for what we want ourselves to be? Why do we not seek God for understanding about our lives and our purpose? Why do we not seek out the knowledge we need in order to make the changes we need in our lives? Why do we even try, only to give up in the end? Why? The truth is I don’t think I will ever know 100% why to all these answers. The truth is the answer to these whys maybe different for each person. The truth is that there are some people that the answer to these whys are going to be because of excuses, others opinions, or something not going their way. The truth is that although I wish that every person could reach their destiny and fulfill their dreams, some people just are not willing to do whatever it takes to get there.
Looking at yourself is always the hardest thing to do. I couldn’t dare begin to ask these why questions or analyze anyone without first analyzing myself. I began to ask myself these same questions. I began to look at myself right where I am at and asked myself are you doing whatever it takes? After, thinking about it, I can honestly say….. NO, I am not doing whatever it takes. I would like to think that I am, but then I look at some of the choices that I make and can say that there are alot of areas in my life where I am just giving little to average effort in. Although, I say and desire bigger and better things, alot of my actions are showing that I am not doing whatever it takes to get those things that I want in my life. For instance, for going on 9 years now I have been saying that I am going to get in shape, and live a healthy lifestyle. Even though I have made small changes such as no processed foods, and no red meats; I still have not done whatever it takes by exercising at least 3 times a week, by meal prepping my food, by saying no to sweets. Then in knowing this I beat myself up, because there is something deep inside myself that knows that I can do more, yet I am not. So, if I dont get in shape, if I have bad health when I get older, I am the only one to blame because I choose not to do whatever it takes now in this moment to get there. This is not by all means all of the things that I am working on but this is just a prime example in my life. I feel like that I am trying to control everything in my life that I should in fact be letting God control, so that I can focus on giving and doing whatever it takes in the moment. I feel that I try to control alot of things outside of my control, that I still think about negative things that people have said to me, such as the doctor telling me I will never be able to obtain a flat stomach due to having a c-section with my first child. Somehow, although 9 years ago this still plays in my head. I have paid for countless gym memberships, trainers, nutrition plans, but yet I dont commit all the way through, yet I haven’t pushed myself past the point. I think its because some of me still believes what that doctor said to me years ago, and then I just end up giving up.
However, what I am realizing is that there is always going to be naysayers telling you what you cant do, especially when they see the light that God has in you, and that they know that you can do it. There is always going to be something designed by the devil to try to stop you from reaching the true potential that God has designed for you. The reason for that is because the devil does not want to see you at your best ultimate self, because he knows then that he wont be able to have you, if you have God on your side and you reach that destiny that God has for you. The devil will try to bring defeat, discouragement, and any other negative thing he can possibly do to stop you from ; one pursuing a relationship with Christ, and two reaching your dreams. The devil can do more with you when you are living in defeat, and full of regret. The devil wants to kill, steal and destroy you. The devil wants you to give up, turn from God, blame God, and not trust God. Because he knows that if he can get you there,you are more vulnerable to doing his work rather than Gods work.
I have for so many years allowed the devil to play these mind games with me, to make me think that I am not good enough, to make me think about what others have said about me, to make me give up, to make me doubt who God is, and who I am in God. The devil has stolen to much of my joy and happiness for too long. I am sick and tired of being sick and tired. I am tired of allowing him to win, or the fear of what others have to say stop me from pursuing the destiny that God has designed for me to live abundantly in.
I feel that at almost 25 years old that I have reached the cross road in my life. That I have two choices that I can make. I can continue to allow the devil to control my life through all these crazy games that he tries to play with me, or that I can trust God to fight for me, and be my strength so that I can do whatever it takes to get to where I truly see myself in my life. I feel like the time is now, to make the choices that go alongside what God wants for me, knowing that what he wants for me is greater than anything else. I feel like that if I dont make the choices now to do whatever it takes to get there, than I to will just be another person added to the list of regret and resentfulness. I do not want to live my life this way a day longer. I have seen this way of living enough already, I do not want this anymore for myself, my children or anyone else.
I now understand that living out the purpose God has for me, seeing my dreams manifest is worth doing whatever it takes in order to get there. Sometimes doing that whatever it takes means giving up things, people, thoughts, actions, and anything else getting in the way of me getting there. Sometimes the biggest person stopping you is yourself, your own thoughts. I have decided that I can only make a difference in today, with the choices that I make in this day. The only way that I am going to overcome all of those negative things people have said to me, or the ones that I have said to myself is by doing the very things they say that I couldn’t do. Its by pushing myself to go harder when I feel like giving up, Its by seeking out the answers and direction that I dont have so that I can grow. Its about me making one change, and one choice at a time that will lead to something greater. Its about me believing who God is, and all his promises he has for me. Its about me believing God when he tells me who I am, and what I am capable of. Its about taking risk, living outside of the box, the blood, sweat, and tears that I am going to endure and learn to embrace in order for me to get there. Its about being able to say that I did it, in order to show others how to do the same. Its about me remembering that my children depend on me, and are looking up to me to be the one to show them the way. Its about living my life to the best that I can and remembering that one day I wont be able to. Its about forgetting about what people have to say and remember that God is my only judge. Its about proving to myself that I can do it.
Its about doing whatever it takes, and remembering that whatever it takes doesn’t always mean gum drops and lollipops. Its about remembering that if I truly do whatever it takes, give my all in each day, there is no reason why I or you wont make it.
Set aside the hurt, the fear, the excuses, the doubt, the judgement of others, and grab a hold to the victory, love, peace, and so much more that God has for you. Alone we are not strong enough to do this on our own, but with God we can do all things.
John 10:10 King James Version (KJV)
10 The thief cometh not, but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundant
Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the LORD, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future