The prison system is no joke, nowadays it seem as though they would rather just lock you up in prison instead of actually teaching you through rehabilitation. They are taking the non leaded and misguided right through the ringer. It’s not all the time that the punishment should be prison, sometimes it actually takes helping someone to be a better person which then helps them to be better people in society. However it seems as though the governments are choosing to make more money rather than actually helping people to become better to function in society, which therefore leads to having to spend less money of tax payers dollars. But they don’t want that do they? This subject is so vague but yet has very intriguing detail, but unless the average person is affected by someone they know and love being in prison, people could care less.
The reality of it is though we have more prisons then we do colleges. The reality of it is that we have more black males in prison than we do white. The reality is so many children are going without fathers because of this prison epidemic.
I plan to get more in to detail on future post. There has to be some light shown in this unethical, harsh system, that so many whether innocent or guilty are affected by it.
I decided to let this be the first post into a gateway of many post to come on this subject. I am writing this with understanding because my father has been in prison my whole life, which is 25 years. He’s been in prison since he was 19, and I believe this long because he was railroaded by the system. I am not just saying this because he is my father, I truly believe he didn’t receive justice in his case. I will again be talking more on my story when the time is right.
I am making this post because so many people go to prison and are forgotten about. It’s bad enough they have to endure a living hell each and everyday, then to top that off with no one showing them love and support its absolutely insane. Honestly if you were in those shoes, it would probably drive you insane to.
Why is it that people we love and know go to prison and we forget all about them? Why is that we get so consumed with our own lives and happiness that we forget to think about those who are suffering? Why is that we say we are going to be there for someone when they go to prison, yet dissapear? Why is that we act so busy that we don’t take the time to show love through a letter, accepting a phone call, or sending any amount of money?
I myself have been guilty of not being there all the time for my dad when I was younger and lacked understanding, empathy, knowledge. I know however see the importance of showing love and be there for my father. I believe this is to encourage him, to be the little light in his every day darkness. As a single mother, it’s sometimes hard to find the time to write, send money, go and visit. I make away though because I imagine if I was the one in prison how I would feeling someone abandon me. Although my dad has been in there and I could have every reason to be resentful and angry (which I used to be), it’s not worth allowing it to take the joy out of the relationship. I wouldn’t want anything to happen to my dad and then I would have a guilty conscience of what I did not do and should have did to show how much I love him.
I made it a priority to put away my own wants and needs, to stop thinking always about myself and start thinking about someone else.
With that being said, here are a few ways that you can begin to support someone in prison.
Ways to support those in prison:
- Pray for them
- Take 10 minutes out of your day to write them. A stamp cost less than 50 cents, and a friendly letter can always uplift someone
- Talk to them if they call, not every call is collect
- Send them money even if it is just $20 it can be enough to get hygienes and snacks so they don’t eat the food that is like dog food in there
- Send cards, or encouraging articles that are informative and helpful
- Go and visit them, it doesn’t take a lot of money to go visit. Visiting allows them to see that they are still cared about
- Make sure they are being well taken care of medically (which is sometimes neglected)
- If you can help research anything legally that may help case. There are lot of lawyers willing to do pro bono case work.
- Let them know they are loved and missed
- Stay supporting them. A lot of the time people will start and then stop. Yes sentences can be long, but imagine how much longer they feel when no one is there for you
These are just a few things that I have worked on and have gotten a lot better at doing. I made the mistake young of not supporting, and I saw the effect it had on my father. The prison numbers are going get continue to increase, so don’t ignore the problem. Even if you don’t have anyone now, you never know what can happen, and there is still ways you can support someone who does have someone in prison.
There are multiple sides of the story and chances are the people on the outside hurt just as much as people on the inside. You can choose to be a support to either because both need support and love.
Have empathy in your heart and imagine what it would feel like if it were you. Would you want people to forget about?
3 Continue to remember those in prison as if you were together with them in prison, and those who are mistreated as if you yourselves were suffering.