I can remember when I was in elementary school how we had virtues that we had to remember, practice, and could also win awards for doing. I can remember these virtues being anything from Cooperation, Perseverance, Respect, Responsibility and etc. I can remember the teacher distinctively talking to us about each one of these,and how these played apart in our day to day lives. I can also remember winning a few awards for showing off these virtues. I couldn’t imagine how I would think without the schools teaching me these things, my parents never really talked to me about virtues. I didn’t really get preached at about the importance of these. I could only imagine how rude, irresponsible I could have become if I didn’t know these values at a young age.
The issue I am having a hard time wrapping my mind around is why they dont do this in school really any more. I dont seem to understand why it went from learning about all the essentials virtues and morals, to only covering 3 of them. There are a lot of schools who have adapted the be safe, be kind, be responsible, and just drill these three in students heads. However, the dilemma is that although these 3 are important they are most certainly not the most important ones or all the virtues that children should be practicing at school.
Why is that we no longer talk about more than one virtue? Why is that these are not talked about more frequently? Why is that children dont learn social skills and skills that can teach them to be more successful in school and in life?
These questions just recently came up, when I decided to read a book to my child’s class.The book that I read I had found at a a library book scale, and thought it would be good to read to the class. The book was on key virtues consisting of things like respect, honesty, self- worth, cooperation, kindness and etc. Before I began to read the book, I had asked the children ( 2nd grade), if they knew what a virtue was. They said no they didn’t know what a virtue was. I proceeded to tell them what a virtue was, and began to read the book. The thing that interested me was the fact, that through out reading the book, the simple terms such as honesty or self- worth, the children knew nothing about.
This really shocked me how the children knew nothing about other virtues other than the 3 that they practice at school which were the be safe, be kind and be responsible. This of course begin to spark interest in me because I see that there is an issue that needs to be addressed. This issue is not only in the homes, but also in the schools as well. If there is no one taking the time to teach children the proper values, and morals that they should have, how can we expect them to survive in the world when they are an adult? It is kind of like being in the woods with no compass. In this case children in this day in age of education are lacking in their moral compasses. I believe that is why across America we have seen decline in students graduating, and in grades. I believe that is why across America we have seen a increase in fights in school, kids not caring, and just kids growing up way to fast.
I am not by any means pointing fingers at anyone, because I believe that there are multiple roles that must be played in order for a child to be successfully molded into something greater. If the homes aren’t instilling these in their children, and the schools are limiting what virtues they are teaching, we are basically expecting our children to learn these on their own or in a world that values are also diminishing. Its like we are setting our children up for failure not for success. Children are meant to learn and should learn more than just one value. Children should learn and be warned about aspects in life that will truly be beneficial to them.
We should get back to teaching more than one value in schools, we should get back to practicing these in our homes. We should get back to the most important things in life which are our children. The children we raise now, are the ones that are going to have our world in their hands one day. If we dont help mold and build them up in the right way, we can only expect their to be alot of drama and damage. There will be damage in the homes, schools, and in the world. The question is how many people actually care enough to say anything about it, to do anything about it?
There should be no reason why children dont know anything about self worth, cooperation, honesty, respect, and etc. Children should begin to learn about these at a young age so that they can practice them as adults.
Seeing that in my sons class, really woke me up to the reality of where are world is and what direction our world is going in. It lets me know that I have to be the one to teach my children these values. I have to be the one to inspire my children to seek knowledge and understanding outside of what the schools try to teach. To me, it feels as though the school tries to limit the amount of education your children should learn. Its almost as if the education system is designed to teach what they want you to know and do in life, and alot of it is nothing compared to what you need to know to survive in a cruel world, and doesn’t even tough the amount of information that is available to the eager mind.
There are more and more worksheets, less and less hands on. There are more multiple choice, making the answer easier to find, and less promoting brain power. It is just a sad truth that the education of the world is becoming less admirable as it used to be.
However, that is a topic that can talk about in another post. I just really want to stress the importance of taking the time to teach your children about values, and really practicing them yourself. You are the best role model for your child, so if they cant count on you to teach them, you are opening the door for them to learn the wrong information from someone else.
Lets get values back in school, lets get values back in homes, and start to set our children up for success. Setting them up with healthy mindsets, and good moral compasses, so that they can handle anything that life has to throw at them.
Grip hold to values and morals, and let go of the superficial.
What are ways you teach your children about values?
—Amuzgo de Guerrero (AMU)—
2 Timothy 3:1-5New International Version (NIV)
3 But mark this: There will be terrible times in the last days. 2 People will be lovers of themselves, lovers of money, boastful, proud, abusive,disobedient to their parents, ungrateful, unholy, 3 without love, unforgiving, slanderous, without self-control, brutal, not lovers of the good, 4 treacherous, rash, conceited, lovers of pleasure rather than lovers of God— 5 having a form of godliness but denying its power. Have nothing to do with such people.