Growth is key in life but the key in life is to grow from the inside out not the outside in. It’s inevitable that we will grow on the outside as we age year after year but that doesn’t say with time we grow on the inside as well. Maybe even with aging we grow as we learn from mistakes but what about the choices we make that we don’t learn from? The ones that we consciously say we want to change by stopping a certain action, yet we subconsciously make up justified lies we tell ourselves to continue that action. Actions in which coherently stunt the growth that we are seeking because we make up excuses for the actions in which we tell ourselves we don’t want to do anymore.
For instance, say you have been wanting for a long time to get healthy and you tell yourself that you are going to start eating clean foods. Making the conscious choice to recognize and be aware of the fact that you need to eat healthier is a sign of growth. A lot of successful people say the first thing to change is to recognize you need it. However the issue comes when you continue the same old actions that weren’t growing you. Continuing with this same example, of eating healthy. If you just start you maybe doing well for the first week then all of sudden you have a event come up and at that event they have all your favorite foods, at that moment you cross the line by subconsciously telling yourself, you will only have one or that you will start fresh tomorrow.
That is when you have just told yourself a justified lie. You lied to yourself by saying that you will only have one or you will start tomorrow which in the moment makes you think your action for eating the unhealthy food is okay. Before you know it that one day has become a month and your feeling horrible and your feeling stuck.
You end up standing still in life mentally, spiritually, physically, and emotionally. Causing you to not be growing but instead to be staggering.
Maybe, it’s not always ourselves that either causes or doesn’t cause our growth or staggering. The people and circumstances in our lives can also be the reasons why we either grow or stagger. If you have been through a lot in life that has been challenging as well as traumatizing you may not grow in those areas if those events or people still hold some type of bondage over you. We don’t always realize how much those things and people actually effect our entire beings.
We could also not be growing because we are not seeking what it is that we need to grow in our lives. If you have been doing something a certain way your whole life and want to change it, you will have to seek out the knowledge that you need in order to make those changes that you need. However some people are not willing to put in the work that they need in order to make those changes that they need to make.
We can end up standing still in life when we stop believing in ourselves, when we stop trying and just give up. When life seems to be rough and we seem to be making no progress we slowly stop believing in ourselves as a person. Once we stop believing in ourselves, we stop really trying to put in our best efforts in life and eventually we just give up.
Have you ever heard of or even have people you may know that on the outside their physical age maybe for example 40 but their mindset is that of a teenager?
A lot of times that’s because something happened to them or because they didn’t have the right things being fed into their life. So therefore they never really grew up.
It’s sad to say that millions of Americans face this issue of either growing or standing still aka staggering lol. It’s sad to say that millions of Americans die never reaching their full potential because somewhere along the ride of life they stop believing in themselves which in turn made them stop growing. It’s sad to say that all of us have been at this point in our lives where we feel no growth but feel stuck no matter what we do.
So, what breaks the standing still and allows the growth within to flourish? What pushes a person to be their ultimate self?
Is it when we reach our breaking point? Is it when we hit rock bottom? Is it when we let go of the past? Is it when we let go of stagnated people around us? Is it when we are on our death beds questioning what we did in our lives? Is it life circumstances that causes someone to stop growing? Is it their perceptions of themselves or is it when we finally let go and let God?
The funny things about life, growth, and staggering is that along the way we attempt to use other things to fill the void we have in our hearts. We use other things to try to help us grow, thinking if I make this amount of money, have these clothes, get married, have kids, if I only do this then I will grow in life then I will feel unstuck.
The truth is that no matter how many other things that you use to grow you, it will never last until you realize that God is truly the only thing that can grow you in away that will last forever. He will be the only thing that can get you unstuck mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. He will be the only thing that will take you from where you are and turn you into something you never thought you could be. He can be the one to restore all the things that life has slowly chipped away from your inside. He can be the thing to make you believe in yourself again.
Growth is something that we need in life because without growing both inside and out, why are we truly living? Growth is the thing that we will be able to pass down from generation to generation. Leaving to a generation a wealth of knowledge, love, peace, joy and so many other attributes that God has given us that will fill their spirits and give them the key to direction and the ability to grow in life as well.
If we ourselves are not growing, if we ourselves are not seeking out the best us we can possibly be, how are we to teach the ones after us the meaning of life.
To start growing we must first realize that we must first grow from within. To start growing we must first open our minds to something greater than ourselves. To start growing we must look at ourselves to determine what in our lives in the moment we are in now is causing us to stagger. To start growing we must be able to admit to ourselves that we aren’t perfect and we don’t have it all together. To start growing we must be willing to set aside our old ways. To start growing we must allow God to take control and lead the way.
Growth is not about going in a straight line, it’s about being able to push through, and learn, no matter the direction the line of life goes in. Staggering is about refusing to grow. It’s about refusing to see that you need to change. It’s about giving up and not putting in any effort mentally, spiritually, and emotionally as our bodies continue to grow.
What is growth without those key areas growing? What is life if you still do the same things you did in adulthood as a child? What is growth if you don’t push yourself, challenge your own thinking, shake up your core existence, and stretch yourself to mold into who you were really destined to be?
Growth is what we all need in order to truly feel as though we are living life. Growth is what we all need before our dying day. Don’t be afraid, don’t keep holding on to something that’s staggering you, don’t keep putting your life purpose on the back burner. Don’t keep making excuses or tricking yourself with justified lies.
Allow yourself to experience growth even from brokenness, poverty, heartache, struggle or whatever it maybe. You don’t have to have materialism to grow,the most important thing in the world that needs to grow is YOU!!
How will you choose to grow today?
(One small step is better than none)
1 Corinthians 14:20 ESV
Brothers, do not be children in your thinking. Be infants in evil, but in your thinking be mature.
1 Corinthians 13:11 ESV
When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I gave up childish ways.
Ephesians 4:14-15 ESV /
So that we may no longer be children, tossed to and fro by the waves and carried about by every wind of doctrine, by human cunning, by craftiness in deceitful schemes. Rather, speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in every way into him who is the head, into Christ,