If you look around the world today it seems as though, we have become more uptight, angry, and mean human beings who have somehow started to lack compassion and empathy, than we were before when laughter, compassion and love seemed right. It seems now that so many people are caught up in the negativity and chaos that the news continuously feeds us that it has become harder and harder for us to find reasons to simply just have joy and smile. When I walk down the street it seems that I find more people with blank stares of emptiness than I do with people who are smiling with their eyes or face. Even when I try to give a smile to someone, I seem to get more reactions of frowns or people completely looking the other way. It is very seldom when I actually get someone to crack even a half of smile.
But why? Why has the world come to a place of unhappiness and lack of compassion? Why have we allowed the negativity in this world to outweigh the positivity? Why have we taken away the compassion and replaced it with selfishness? Why do we frown more than we smile? Why do we complain more than we seem to have gratefulness?
Do we lack happiness because we are waiting for some big drastic thing to happen in our lives that changes its direction? Are we putting our happiness based on things rather than experiences? If we take at what the world says will bring you happiness it all has to do with external things outside of who we are. These things range from our education, status, money, networks, and even our possessions. The world will make us think that if we aren’t driving a certain vehicle, living in a certain home, don’t have this type of degree, or this amount of money than we can never truly be happy. But the world is wrong. Happiness has something to do far more than the things that we have. Because if the case was that money, prestige, possessions are the key to happiness, than why are many reach people still unfulfilled and unhappy?
So where and how do we obtain happiness? I’m sure like most of us when we buy something new, get money, do something fun we all feel a short term feeling of happiness but than after that it fades away and we are on the search again to find happiness once more. So how can we find happiness on a day to day? What can we do to generate a happiness within instead of constantly waiting for external things to make us happy?
Is it becoming at peace within ourselves? Is it learning to value the small things instead of always searching for more? Is it making our own happiness? Is it being happy for someone else? Why is smiling linked to happiness anyway?
Well according to a study in the Harvard Business Review titled The Science Behind The Smile stated a wide array of questions on the topic of happiness. In this article some of the questions ranged from How is it possible to measure subjective happiness and why do events have such fleeting effects on happiness? However the most interesting question and answer from psychologist Ed Diener on the question Beyond rich networks, What makes us happy on the day to day? His answer is included below from the excerpt of the article;
The psychologist Ed Diener has a finding I really like. He essentially shows that the frequency of your positive experiences is a much better predictor of your happiness than is the intensity of your positive experiences. When we think about what would make us happy, we tend to think of intense events—going on a date with a movie star, winning a Pulitzer, buying a yacht. But Diener and his colleagues have shown that how good your experiences are doesn’t matter nearly as much as how many good experiences you have. Somebody who has a dozen mildly nice things happen each day is likely to be happier than somebody who has a single truly amazing thing happen. So wear comfortable shoes, give your wife a big kiss, sneak a french fry. It sounds like small stuff, and it is. But the small stuff matters.
I think this helps explain why it’s so hard for us to forecast our affective states. We imagine that one or two big things will have a profound effect. But it looks like happiness is the sum of hundreds of small things. Achieving happiness requires the same approach as losing weight. People trying to lose weight want a magic pill that will give them instant results. Ain’t no such thing. We know exactly how people lose weight: They eat less and exercise more. They don’t have to eat much less or exercise much more—they just have to do those things consistently. Over time it adds up. Happiness is like that. The things you can do to increase your happiness are obvious and small and take just a little time. But you have to do them every day and wait for the results.
To me this concluded that happiness is possible in our every day lives but in a sense we must find and create these happy moments. We must also remember that what makes one person happy may not make you happy. We also have to be open to the world around us and be open minded when it comes to forming our view of happiness. We can’t focus on what the world says will make us happy because in the end the world wants you to be happy with what they think is happiness so that they can in the end get something from you by you chasing their terms of happiness. So, it’s best to live and create not only life but your happiness based on what feels good to your own soul.
This post isn’t to try to tell you how to create your own happiness or force any views of happiness on you that you may not have or want. This post is to just give you some ideas of things that you can do to make you smile that could lead you to possibly not only doing these but finding your own as well. This post has also included some quotes, videos, and funny pictures based on happiness and the art of smiling.
Smiling is truly contagious and if you can find more ways to smile from within your world will brighten up not only for you but possibly for someone else’s. Smile every morning when you wake up and look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself positive things; just see how much that changes the course of your day.
You do know that it takes more muscles in your face to frown than it does to smile right ?(lol) 🙂
1. Smile every morning when you wake up
Just starting your day with a smile can help set you up for a day of happiness. There is something about looking at yourself in the mirror, smiling, and telling yourself your going to have a good day makes you want to seek out things that will help you to have a good day.
2. Do something you know makes you happy
Chances are you already have things that naturally make you smile. These things could be anything from a fresh cup of morning coffee, playing with kids, reading something, dancing, taking a walk, and even enjoying nature. Start noticing the things that make you smile and write them down in a list that you can come back and reference to.
3. Find something or do something that makes you laugh
Laughter has a funny way of making you smile as your laughing or after your laughing. Make yourself laugh by reading the newspaper comics, watching a comedy show, or even listening to funny jokes.
4. Think about happy thoughts
They say that what you think about you focus on. That the mind controls not only what you think but how you act. If you are constantly feeding your mind with negativity from social media or even the news chances are what your thinking about is negativity which therefore will make you feel negative. So, if you feed your mind more positive things and think happy thoughts you will feel more positive and smile more.
5. Practice smiling more
You probably don’t realize how much you aren’t smiling until you go to smile for a picture and your cheeks start wobbling lol. That maybe because you are not smiling enough. The best way to stop your cheeks from wobbling from not smiling enough is to practice smiling more. The great thing about smiling is that there are a bunch of different smiles that you can do. The more you practice the better you get.
6. Make someone else smile/ Happy
How many times have you done something to make someone else feel good and it made you feel better than what you were feeling before you helped them. There is always a fulfilling sense that we get on the inside for making someone else feel good. Do something like holding the door open for someone or even giving someone else a compliment and see how much better that makes you feel.
7. Be true to yourself
Nothing makes you feel happier than being true to who you are. Be confident in what makes you happy, what you like or don’t like. By any means don’t smile if you don’t feel happy, meaning don’t fake how you really feel. Just be honest with the emotion that you maybe having allow yourself to feel it and then move on. Just because you may have be having a sad or angry moment doesn’t mean that you can’t find happiness or reasons to smile even in the bad.
These are some tips from me that I have used to make me smile and everyday I practice staying positive in this negative world. See the thing is that the more negativity and bad we have in this world the more that we have to fight and grow for the opposite of it. If we allow the negativity to win and we only focus on that, then we are going to live in a sad and lonely world. Don’t let evil win, don’t let the bad win. Keep fighting for the good. Keep fighting for your happiness. Keep staying positive. There are reasons to smile, there are reasons to be happy, there is still good in the world and if we don’t see it everyday we have to be the ones to have the power to create it. 🙂
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Below you will find even more resources with quotes, photos, and videos that I hope will put a smile on your face 🙂
- SuperWomans- 10 more reasons to smile
2. Evan Carmichael- Be Positive Motivation
3. Brendon- How to reprogram your mind for positive thinking
4. Will Smith- Your words and thoughts have physical power
” There is only one happiness in this life, to love and be loved”- George Sand
” Happiness is not something you postpone for the future, it is something you design for the present” – Jim Rohn
” Love is when the other person’s happiness is more important than your own”- H. Jackson. Brown Jr
” Let us never know what old age is. Let us know the happiness time brings, not count the years” – Ausonius
” It isn’t what you have, or who you are, or where you are, or what you are doing that makes you happy or unhappy. It is what you think about” – Dale Carnegie
” There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about things that are beyond the power of our will” -Epictetus
” Success is not the key to happiness. Happiness is the key to success. If you love what you are doing, you will be successful”- Hermain Cain
I hope that these will help you find a little more happiness today.
What are things that you do to make yourself happy or smile?